Asking for Help in a Distanced World
It’s been over 9 months since the global pandemic began, and we’re still here! We’ve dealt with changes in our daily routine and the added stress. At this point we have all heard the term social distancing, probably too many times to count. The term social distancing is a misleading one. It seems to make us think we must isolate from connecting with our loved ones in general instead of at a safe physical distance. Maybe the term physical distancing would have been more appropriate?
With all this distancing, it may even be harder to reach out and ask for help.
Many of us, especially women, are natural caregivers. We struggle with asking for help when we need it. Men often don’t feel comfortable asking for help due to early childhood gender influences. These are only two examples of those that don’t reach out when in need, physically or emotionally. There comes a time when shouldering everything can weigh you down like a stone in a river. This brings up the question: how does one ask for help when the world has become so distant?
Asking others for help can not only strengthen your mentality but can also help strengthen your bonds with others. Asking for help is not a weakness, but our greatest strength.
Reach Out and Get Out Outside
Even in these times, you should make it a priority to spend at least 20 minutes outside every day. It’s one of the most beneficial things we can do for our overall health and wellbeing. Reach out to someone you care for and suggest a physically distanced walk. Even if you’re not ready to ask for help, talking about this shared experience can help you get ready.
There is a balance between self-reliance and self-sabotage. We sometimes try to manage it all ourselves. We turn down connection when we may in fact be in dire need of it. Say yes to the phone calls, the virtual game nights, and Zoom coffee chats. We are social creatures and isolation has such a harsh impact on our wellbeing. Say “YES” to the connection your soul is craving.
Give Help to Others
Sometimes the best way to ask for help, can be to offer it. While this isn’t always the case, this year we’re all going through a similar life changing experience. If you see someone struggling, reach out. Not only will your kindness help someone else, but in helping others we strengthen our mindset thus providing self-help.
Many mental health practices have changed the way they see clients during Covid-19, they’re as ready and willing to help you as ever. Telehealth has been a saving grace for many people this year. It allows us to continue our path to wellness in the safety and comfort of our own home.
Remember that even though we are physically distancing ourselves right now, it does not mean we should distance ourselves from connections with others. When it is all said and done, we will get through this together. If this article has encouraged you to reach out for help, I am offering in-person appointments as well as HIPAA-compliant telehealth options. Contact me today to discuss your journey.